Feelings are coming clear and strong now. Finally there is a heart where there used to be a mental desert only.
There is a type of feeling that I am identifying that is perhaps new to me. I feel like this when I am in certain situations. I feel a kind of wakefulness. It is not exactly fear, but there is an undertone of “watch, watch out.” That is how I feel when I am with certain people, in certain situations and I think that this will leave with time and experience.
It’s like I was just red-pilled and it is my first time being consciously “plugged-in”. It is a very odd sensation, truly not unlike in the movie, “the Matrix” when Neo first goes into the alternate reality that the inhabitants of Zion have constructed as a training ground.
I am sitting and typing this and my “roommate” is swearing. There is a moment where I feel that I must retreat. I keep calling out to him. I want to know how to help. It’s getting stronger and stronger now. Do I run? Is this like when Trinity gets to the telephone booth and turns to look at Agent Smith driving towards her in the big fat threatening truck? I used to get so scared. I used to run and hide like a dog.
Now I am starting to feel more like Neo after he found out that he was the “One”. Yes, there have been so many analyses, there have been so many times when people have tried to puzzle out the meaning of the story. but I feel now that I have gotten it more or less. And now it becomes a game. Serious, but still a game. At least now, now that I know the rules, I can occupy the board, my space upon it.
I say I know the rules. Well, I know that either there are no rules, in which case we are all screwed OR,
DRUM ROLL
There is only one rule. That rule is the Love. And where is that Love?
It doesn’t mean I ignore the danger. But I know when and where I have to run. It seems that way to me.
So where is the Love? Read the next installment to get that information.
MIND CONTROL
So what exactly is mind control?
The main characteristic of mind control is that it forces its victim to always accept the abuser’s dictates without hesitation and to always question oneself and one’s own feelings to the point of neglecting one’s own best interests even to the point of extreme self-sacrifice.
Mind control is the concept by which a subject’s thoughts and actions can be controlled by an external entity. This can be via psychological or physical means. This always involves isolation and coercion on multiple levels.
Mind control is ubiquitous in society. It is primarily used against unsuspecting citizens for the purpose of molding them into unquestioning members of society and good “consumers”. But it is also used by lower level abusers such as partners, friends, family, teachers, clergy etc.
REMEMBER THIS ABOVE ALL: WITHOUT SOME TYPE OF ISOLATION, MIND CONTROL CAN NEVER SUCCEED.
five-fold mind control system
1. Isolation
If you find yourself suddenly isolated from your friends and family, be sure someone is trying to control your mind. The abuser usually moves quickly to isolate you, but this can also happen over time. Normally it happens in a flash. They use a few tactics to do this. They try to monopolize your time and attention. At first they might make you feel as though you are very special to them. You might feel like you are in love or have found your soul mate. Because we often lead isolated existences, we can easily become prey to these types of people. Be on your guard. I know it feels good. Just be aware that the abusers very often prey on the weakness of the target. If you are full of wishful thinking, you become vulnerable.
Be realistic when you meet new people. Ask yourself, why does this person have so much time for me? Do they have no other interests? If they are extremely charming AND they are focusing undue amounts of time and attention on you, you are probably going to experience a difficult time ahead.
If you are a person with anxious nature and chronic low self-esteem the attacker might go straight into an abusive attitude. In that case, definitely don’t put up with it. Get away from them as soon as possible. Don’t excuse them. Good people and friends don’t do that. If you do have this sort of problem, try to get help. Make sure that you reach out to people you know who seem normal and well-balanced to you. Don’t allow yourself to be bullied into silence and isolation. It is very important to do this.
It is always important not to cut off your “feedback” loops. Try to stay in touch with people who know you and have your best interests at heart. Try to include your new found friend/s in your established circle. If the new friend or group has a reaction against this, they are 100% trying to get you alone and they need you alone and vulnerable in order to break your spirit. That is their main goal. You will have to distance yourself as soon as you see this, before it’s too late.
2. Moody behavior
If your partner sulks when they don’t get their own way or if you feel the need to change your behavior in order to placate them ==> This is the start of mind control, where you are being trained to change your actions and personality. It is a tell-tale sign that they are trying to control your mind and experiencing some success in doing that.
3. Metacommunication
The use of subtle clues and hints using nonverbal cues. If a husband asks his wife if she is ok and she replies ‘Yes’ with a sigh and a shrug, it becomes clear that she is not ok, though her verbal answer is yes. Metacommunication is also used to implant subliminal thoughts.
4. Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP is a technique of injecting and layering thoughts and thought patterns into a person’s unconscious mind without them knowing.
NLP looks at many different aspects of a person and uses constructed language and engineered behavior based on these aspects in order to manipulate the person.
5. Uncompromising Rules
For example: If you are expected to meet impossible deadlines, have strictly regulated mealtimes and bathroom breaks, no access to your own money or friends, then this is mind control.
The goal is to weaken your decision making powers and make you dependent on someone else to tell you what to do in order to ultimately alter your behavior. This, in turn, stops you from thinking for yourself and makes it easier for the abuser to implant their own agenda into your mind and program you to their own ends.
How to Prevent Mind Control
If you recognize any of the examples to the left, then it is high time to break free. It is not easy to do this, because the pattern of abuse has become second nature and it doesn’t feel normal to be free and to trust yourself without “permission” any more, if it ever did.
Even if it is not easy, you must do your utmost to break free. Anything less than this means you are in danger of giving up your own life, either in the form of living out someone else’s demands and becoming a stranger to your own natural self-expression OR in many cases it means giving up living entirely through disease and subsequent early demise or by self-murder/suicide.
Ask yourself, if someone were chasing me with a gun or a knife, how motivated would I be to escape? That is an acute deadly threat. Mind control is simply a chronic deadly threat.
Think about it. To what lengths would you go to save yourself? You must apply this logic to mind control, as well. YOU MUST. The following are a few suggestions:
- Try to be alert to the signs BEFORE you get into a “situation”.
Try to educate yourself as to what it means to be free of undue outside influence. Try to think about what it means to be free. What does it mean to be in control of your own life? Try to always see things from this point of view. Don’t let other people impose on you.
If you are like most people you probably have issues with guilt and shame. These can be very deep rooted. Try to understand that this comes from confusion. You have been deceived at some point. Otherwise you would never accept anything less than freedom. You have to find out what is the deception in your life. Where were you deceived? It is there. You will find it. Once you find it you will no longer be confused. When you are done with the confusion, guilt and shame will have no hold on you and no one will be able to dominate you.
- Stay in close contact with friends and family.
Insist on seeing your friends and family when and where you want. If the answer is still no, if the partner starts to sulk and become difficult – walk away.
- Do not put up with moody or sulky behavior.
Immature and childish behavior deserves only one response. Absolute cold intolerance. It’s best to send a clear signal right away by withdrawing from the presence of such persons.
- Nonverbal clues
Be always on your guard for nonverbal clues that do not make sense in the context or do not match up to body language or actions.
- NLP
NLP can be a little tricky to spot. But if you pay attention closely to your feelings you will always know when someone is trying to manipulate you. Watch out for people who seem overly charismatic and charming. If it seems too good to be true, it most certainly IS. No need to wonder about it. Step away quickly. Watch out for mirroring. A person who is trying to manipulate you may begin to repeat the last thing you said before they speak. They will also copy your body language and other behaviors. If what they say is often vague, that is also a huge red flag.
- Uncompromising rules
Uncompromising rules are ALWAYS A GIANT RED FLAG. If you are confused, call your best friends right away and tell them about what happened. If they can’t help, get advice from a professional. You may be experiencing increased anxiety and lower self-esteem. If what the other person is doing makes you feel that way even for an instant GET OUT OF THERE. Always try to introduce the person to your friends and family. If they resist meeting your friends, it’s probably a sign. Trust your family to tell you the truth about your new found friend. They will fall over themselves trying to warn you if they are really good friends.
Last but not least!
Be aware that the people who are most at risk are those who are lacking in independence. Are you really independent? Or are you weak and compliant, even when you feel that what is being asked or suggested might not be good for you? People who are already isolated, marginalized, weak or dependent can easily fall into these traps. You have to try to make yourself strong and always make sure that you choose your own ability to take care of yourself over “help” offered to you from others, whenever possible. It is a very rare thing indeed to be offered help with no strings attached. The rule is, there is a hidden agenda most of the time. Better to assume the worst and brace for the truth, rather than live in wishful thinking and become lazy and vulnerable.
If you choose to depend on others when you could have done it yourself, if this becomes your pattern, you are really asking for trouble. Don’t be a wimp. Get up and do it yourself. Don’t accept help. Push yourself to succeed on your own. If you make this your habit it will be dead simple to spot it when people are trying to put on over on you.
BONUS POINTS–>
This is just for your further consideration. In the many years that I have been on this earth, I have observed that VERY OFTEN, and this seems to be increasingly so, as time goes on, a person of meek and even temperament, a really, really nice person, genuine person, or also a person of a weaker and more submissive nature is very often seen together with someone who is intolerant, pushy, brazen, abusive, etc. In other words, are people being programed to fit into one of two categories and somehow they seem to end up pairing off in that configuration. Strange?
Just ask yourself how often you meet a couple where both are doing well, each respectful of the other, each one manifesting their potential, both supporting each other — happy, well-balanced and contributing their utmost in society? Is it not rather that: A Either people are alone and suffering/struggling, perhaps raising children as single parents with the associated accompanying stresses, or B They seem to be always attracted to or locked into a painful bond with some sort of self-satisfied tyrant. Next question: Could this be by design? Just wondering… What do you think?